Online communities tend to develop their own vocabularies and methods of communication, especially if they’ve been around for a very long time. If you’re new to AdultFriendFinder, you’ll quickly come across slang and short-hand terms you may never have encountered before, as well as more acronyms than you know what to do with.
Some of these are obvious, or used across online dating cultures, but some of them are highly specific to niche communities like the worlds of BDSM and kink.
Here’s a glossary of some of the most essential AFF lingo you’ll want to know as you navigate the site:
Common AFF slang terms you need to know
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Aftercare: Term for cuddling and/or words of affirmation after the conclusion of a BDSM scenario
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Bate buds: Two or more people who enjoy masturbating to the same content and who exchange recommendations
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CD: Cross-dressing, usually referring to a person who enjoys wearing the clothing of another gender
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Cuckolding: The practice or scenario of consensual infidelity, widely enjoyed in non-monogamous relationships
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DD/LG: Acronym for “daddy dom, little girl,” describing a male-dominant, female-submissive relationship
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Dom/Domme: Short-hand term for the dominant partner in a BDSM relationship. The terms master/mistress are often used interchangeably with dom/domme
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Edging: The practice of approaching sexual orgasm without ever reaching it.
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ENM: Ethical non-monogamy, also known as an open relationship
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Little: Short-hand term for the submissive partner in a BDSM relationship
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Limits/Hard Limits: The list of someone’s non-negotiable boundaries. Respecting these limits is a central tenet of kink culture and should be practiced even in online encounters
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MD/LB: Acronym for “mommy domme, little boy,” describing a female-dominant, male-submissive relationship
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Orgasm Control: A scenario in which one partner voluntarily relinquishes control of their sexual climax to another play partner
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Shibari: The Japanese art of decorative rope bondage, usually requiring a high degree of experience to execute properly
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Switch: Someone who occasionally enjoys being either dominant or submissive
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Vanilla: A non-pejorative term describing a preference for non-kinky sexual practices
